An Open Valentine to My Loving Husband, Bob…

48 Valentine’s Days Together, Yet Rarely a Big To Do

Instead, we have cherished most every day by:

Image:   Bob and Joanne

Bob and Joanne

Enjoying each other’s company over coffee and tea–and how much I appreciate your thoughtfulness and random acts of love when you bring mine to me;

Laughing at each other’s stumbles and grumbles about the ways we are aging together—and especially the synchronicity at which we yawn, sniff, sigh, and adapt to aches and pains during the changing weather;

Living a mostly quiet and simple life now that we both have retired and our children are grown—but still humbled by how long it’s been, how young we first were, and how far we’ve come;

Compromising and communicating, exerting patience and understanding, that increased the harmony in our life –And, ultimately, our marital bond became more meaningful, sacred and fully removed from any former strife;

Willingly we committed to making changes and learned how to fight –through periodic times of stress, we argued and negotiated and then let go of “who was right;”

Pooling our talents, skills, likes and dislikes, we created in us a dynamic duo–We found that we could accomplish anything by working as a team, if we wanted to;

Feeling good about our relationship required first feeling good about ourselves as individuals and as a couple—We learned that a long-lasting marriage demands healthy doses of loving,  laughing, liking and respecting, doubled and redoubled;

Experiencing the many wonderful ups and difficult downs in the course of our long marriage and certainly a few moments of wanting to flee—but we slowly evolved to realize that we have a lasting relationship and one that has succeeded in a time in the world where not many are likely to succeed;

And, when all is said, I would be remiss, if I didn’t thank God above and our family and friends whom we also love for granting us this wedded bliss.

Philippians 2:3,4 says “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”

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